As we enter a beautiful Fall season, I wanted to talk about potential things we girls and women "fall" for when considering whether or not to take back that guy who we "think" we love.
So we all know the story, you broke up or even divorced and now suddenly you get the text or call that says, "sorry but I still love you", or "I miss you, can we talk." This statement then sends you on an emotional roller coaster ride and you begin to think about the possibility of taking him back, what it could be like etc.
There is always that part of us that wants that fairytale ending, and as our emotions run high, we may even fantasize about meeting our ex-partner with a blissful hug and kiss. But let's face it...after the moment passes, we have reality to deal with, and the reality we find, may not be good. So here are few things to ask yourself before you dive right back into the same situation you just freed yourself from. I will discuss this questions is greater detail in the coming months, but for now I would like you to think on them.
1. Why did you break up in the first place?
2. What was my part of the break-up and why would I want him back?
3. Am I missing him or just being in the relationship? THIS IS A BIG ONE, DON'T Let loneliness lead you astray.
4. What questions do I want to ask him when we speak?
5. What has changed now that will make things work out different than before?
6. What steps do I want to see taken if we were to try again?
These questions are provided by yahoo.match.com, but please do not take the advice provided by yahoo as 100% valid when it comes to relationships. I will be discussing these questions from valid research and provide a deeper level of guidance in the coming months.
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