For the month of March I thought it might be appropriate to begin addressing the vulnerability of women, especially young women. Involvement in any serious working relationship always requires it, but different levels of vulnerability and different times can be expected. Here are a few tips.
Tip #1- ladies you may not want to spill all your innermost thoughts and concerns on your first or even second date. This will prevent you from overwhelming your guy and not put you in a place to get hurt as badly, especially if he chooses to walk way early in the relationship. Give the relationship time to build, meet his family perhaps,and find appropriate moments to open yourself up little by little as the relationship progresses instead of doing it all at once.
Tip #2-If you want your relationship to last, a great rule of thumb for both partners is to not disclose something to a friend group or in public that might make your partner feel uncomfortable or that focuses on his or her weaknesses. The key to this is knowing and respecting your partners deep feelings (issues such as sex, finances, or even his ability to parent if you have kids) are things you should keep between the two of you. Announcing them to the public could really endanger your relationship or your marriage.
Tip #3-When you asked for the truth (ex. "Does this make me look fat?," "Do you like my mother?" etc) expect to get it from you partner. Don't put a man in the position where he feels he will be doomed for being honest. He will be more likely to listen to your heart and to what your really asking and give a positive response to questions such as these if you are not so quick to shut him down. Remember ladies that our hearts are sometimes difficult to interpret (your guy does not know...even when you think, "He should know."
I hope these tips are helpful. Feel free to leave your comments. Have a great month!
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